Thus a married woman is bound by law to her husband while he lives, but if her husband dies she is released from the law of marriage. 3 Accordingly, she will be called an adulteress if she lives with another man while her husband is alive. ESV Romans 7:2-3
I’m blessed to have married my best friend. We love hanging out together and do so at every opportunity. While we love raising the children God has given us, we also look forward to the day they are raised and we are freed to enjoy more time together! We look forward to spoiling our grandchildren and enjoying the ministry God will have for us at that point. In the mean time, I’ll continue to pour into my wife at every opportunity–for she will be with me until one of us dies.
We often consider the importance of taking care of our physical bodies. Be it exercise, losing weight, eating well, tracking various numbers (cholesterol, sugar, blood pressure), we realize our life on earth very much depends on the health of our bodies. When our bodies fail, so does our time on earth. As such, we should at least be slightly motivated to care for our bodies. For some reason, we don’t always think of our marriages in the same way. God does, however. At marriage, we become one-flesh with our spouse, meaning they become as much a part of us as our bodies. Hence, we would do well to maintain our marriage with the same passion that we maintain our bodies. (On another note, and perhaps a blog post for another day, I’m shocked at how many people don’t bother to maintain their bodies….). Just as most of us consider diet, exercise, sleep, etc. to be vital to enjoying long life, so we should consider dates, getaways, movies, snuggles, gentle kisses, walks together, discussion, sharing our day, holding hands, long hugs, sex, dreaming together, and dancing in the kitchen to be vital to the health of our marriage. The verses above remind us of the permanency of our marriages, so we would do well to invest in them.
With five kids, homeschooling, a growing church, an adoption process, lots of discipling and the like, it’s easy for my wife and I to grow apart. That’s why we fight passionately for time together every night. We wrapped up our day at 9:15 last night, then sat and talked for 45 minutes, and watched “Life in Pieces” (our nightly medicine), then went to bed. That hour and a half was time invested in my future…time well spent ’til death do us part.